Hello -
Great input and appreciated. All the data and numbers are available 24x7 on the portal, but yes, it's a good idea for me to have a spreadsheet. I have a powerpoint that I update weekly that I print and take to other of her doctors.
Before the catastrophic platelet diagnosis on 6/5/2020, she was in physical therapy, had tried acupuncture, trigger points, ketamine injections (a few times) and has relied on a super-wonderful anesthesiologist for timely epidural (steroidal) spinal injections to address the pain in back/torso/neck/etc. We also have a visit in a few weeks with a local naturopathic practitioner who is a former MD but has a successful and highly recommended practice in non-Western treatments. As Forrest Gump said, "life is a bowl of cherries." One never knows if a practitioner will help or hurt, but you have to try. And I'm always seeking non-drug treatment to improve my wife's quality of health, even if it's our money and not covered by insurance. She has a gut/digestive problem along with a chronic cough so I diet and environment has to be explored.
Regarding doctors: wow, what to say? We've been both blessed and cursed over the years! I believe my wife could write a book on her experiences.
I should stick to the facts and omit certain topics but obviously emotions run high the past few months. My basic methodology is:
* insist and obtain the best outcome for my wife
* understand and invite perspective from those who are involved and can help
* be proactive with research and be data driven
I do feel that the hematologist has the best interests of my wife at heart. I have to be a pragmatist and look through everyone's eyes, walk in their footsteps. Reality is that her patients are probably 99% cancer patients, my wife is an outlier. There are too few doctors here, the population is exploding and she is clearly overworked. Yes, she came across as harsh and running an hour behind schedule which is not the norm. Seeing cancer patients every day, seeing them not show up and knowing they passed...it has to be a difficult job. Who knows what's going on in her personal life, with covid, her family? I feel I must be quick to listen, slow to speak. The basic rule is that no harm be done. On the flip side, she pauses to ask for questions and has been open to us providing feedback on our 2nd opinion and, thus far, implement those suggestions from another medical practitioner. Is my wife getting the best of care? Does she feel she's getting the best of care? I'm playing the middle-man attempting to remain logical, calm and helpful. I must be able to sift the wheat from the chaff, so to speak. The flip side is this: is there a better hematologist out there, better than what we have? It would be easy to drop someone but I've been through situations where we ended up (temporarily) with someone worse! This must be weighed. I've learned in life that it's most often the best to not rush a decision unless it's life-threatening.
New treatment options will be shared with us in coming weeks, PICC installation next week: I remain positive and resolute.