Hi Randy,
ITP is a known side effect of the MMR shot. If her ITP was caused by that (which I believe A LOT of early childhood ITP is) then giving her another shot would likely be even more damaging to her immune system. If you look at the mumps as a disease itself it is not deadly. It can be bad for boys if they get it when older, but to my knowledge that does not apply to girls. I guess as a parent you have to weigh the benefits vs. the risks of this shot. If she had such a bad immune reaction that she now has ITP, she clearly is sensitive immune wise. Is getting the mumps (which is not deadly by the way and is likely a small risk) less of a risk then getting another shot? That is a question that only you can answer as her parent. I guess I would suggest studying the mumps itself to see what the risks are and then put that into perspective to her risks. There are always going to be extremes. Since you know her, you will have to decide where she sits in the extremes (or not) to get a general idea of what would happen should she get them. Most prudent parents are going to seek medical care for a disease like that so a lot of the extremes may not apply today. So there's my walking on egg shell answer.
Now for full disclosure and personal opinion (so those who want to argue with me just stop reading right here - I've made myself clear this is my opinion and I trust Randy is adult enough to form his own opinions/decisions)..............................................................................
I have a boy who HAD ITP that was severely immune damaged at 13 months old. His whole life we fought to keep his immune system from attacking everything he ate as a result of that shot. He had more then 40 food allergies and an immune system that daily got worse. And then ITP hit when he was 11. Honestly, it was no surprise to me in light of the fact that he had been going downhill for several years prior in his health (severely so).
I gave my kids (all three of them) shots until they were 12 mos. old and I started to study, read and understand what they are, what they do, and how doctor's scare parents that their kid is going to die or cause other kids to die if they don't vax them. And all three of my kids were damaged to some extent. My ITP boy was the worst, but the other two have both had immune system issues as well (clearly there is a genetic component in terms of risk). But in my lifetime, someone will have to kill me before I would ever allow another needle into my kids after the damage I've seen (and not just in my own kids). So my best advice to you is to read, read, read. One way or the other, be VERY informed about what each ingredient is, what it does, and what it's risks are. Because if you look ingredient by ingredient, it will scare you. A doctor can put formaldahyde and thimerasol (and yes, they still use mercury) in a needle and shoot it into a child's thigh and call it a vaccine. If YOU were to do that, they'd throw you in jail. And that's just two ingredients. If you follow the other ingredients, you likely will see my point. But more importantly, just make an informed decision. If, after reading and studying everything one can find, a person still feels vaccines are right for them, then at least they will have made a fully informed decision and know and the risks, benefits, etc. I personally, am very anti-vaccine after our experience. But more importantly, I am pro informed consent. Just make sure you're fully informed so you can make whatever decision you feel is best for your family/daughter. Get the actual drug insert for the MMR shot. Read it, understand it. Look up the mumps. Etc. Etc. On a personal level, I would not recommend you give your daughter the next MMR - or any other shot for that matter. Her immune system is already compromised. Adding more will only make it worse and potentially set her up for more immune issues (for which she's already a risk). But again, that is my personal opinion. You have to decide based on your research and what you know of her body.
The second thing I want you to know is your daughter's immune system (and thus her ITP) CAN be healed. Three doctors told us our son would not be able to get rid of his ITP due to his history of immune issues. We refused to accept that diagnosis. A homeopath treated our son and within two weeks he had platelets (he'd had NONE for 3 months). They went up and down around 35K to 150K for a few months and he finally stablized to normal. And those 40+ food allergies he's had since 13 months? They're gone. Every last one of them. So please do not accept that her system cannot be healed. It can be. Just not with their method. You can read quite a bit about homeopathy on the natural threads on this forum. My heart aches when I know little ones have ITP when it doesn't have to remain that way.
All the best to you and your daughter. The decisions we have to make re: our children's health can be difficult at times, we often second guess ourselves, and it is likely you will NEVER please everyone all of the time no matter what you end up doing. Just do what you think is best for her. That's all you can do.
Best wishes,
patti