Ferv:
I was lucky to have an amiable, easy-going, small town Hemo. He is affiliated with a very good and reputable cancer center though and is a top rated doctor in our area. He didn't know much about ITP. Neither did I. I agreed to five weekly Win-Rho treatments and counts never budged (they were below 15k the whole time). I had a co-pay of $250 per treatment and it was all a waste of money. If Win-Rho doesn't work on the first shot, it's not going to. I didn't know that. Prednisone came after that, twice, and after a year of it all, I went to see an ITP expert in Pittsburgh. I thought she would have some magic treatment that would fix it and make it go away. After waiting hours to see her and having 20 vials of blood drawn, her recommendation was to continue taking Prednisone as needed. What a huge let down. It took all day to hear that.
I stuck with my small town guy because it took much less time and I was getting the exact same treatment suggestions. But once I started reading here, I began to learn and took charge after that. I made suggestions and he listened, but it took him a while to take me credibly. At first he sort of shrugged me off and said "you can't believe everything you read on the Internet". In time, he really did listen and the things I said changed the way he did things for ITP patients in his office. Such as: He began to test his ITP patients for H Pylori because of articles that I gave him. He also argued that Rituxan could not be used until after splenectomy. I proved him wrong and was his first ITP patient who used Rituxan. In time, he started to laugh at the things I suggested and began saying "Well, you're the expert". He pretty much just did what I wanted to do as far as treatments and doses. That was the most important thing to me. I had to live my life, he didn't. I worked full time and had three young kids; I had to manage ITP in a way that would make my life tolerable. When I chose to just monitor counts in the 20's and 30's for months instead of treating, he was behind that. When counts dropped lower and I was symptomatic, he suggested 60 mg's of Prednisone. I said, "no thank you" and suggested 20 mg's. It bumped me up for a while and I'd just do 20 mg's for a few weeks, taper off, and repeat again a few months later. He suggested splenectomy a few times and I declined. He never pushed it. I did the Prednisone thing for a while until Rituxan came along. It worked out for me.
Anyway, point being, he may not have known as much, but he was willing to be a team player and was never arrogant or pushy. He wasn't above joking with me, but that relationship took some time to establish. You have to advocate for yourself when you become comfortable with your knowledge. I'd take being able to do that any day over a doctor with more knowledge who insisted on things I didn't want. But...you have to know what you're talking about first. It's great if you can get both, but that's not always possible.
Sorry, I get so long-winded with you for some reason....I didn't write this to suggest that you shouldn't go to the new doctor. I wrote it to tell you about advocating for yourself, no matter which doctor you choose. It takes time.