Hi, your story sounds similar to people in the lyme groups that I'm in who were born with lyme disease. It can be passed congenitally in utero.
I think modern medicine has a hard time making sense of the fact that our bodies host a variety of bacteria. Our digestive system has bacteria that helps us digest food. The concept of probiotics seems to be understood and appreciated. It doesn't seem to be accepted yet medically that we can also host bacteria that can be problematic and they can cause disease. Some people think fibromyalgia, als, autoimmune diseases, parkinsons, alzheimers, etc. all can be caused by various bacterial infections. It doesn't seem like a huge stretch of the imagination to me. I don't know why invasive bacterial infections aren't given more consideration.
You might not necessarily have congenital Lyme. There are a lot of other infections people get along side lyme that cause similar problems. Babesia, Bartonella, ehrlichia, mycoplasma, etc. etc. It might be helpful to think in terms of possibly having an infection that is causing problems traveling throughout your body affecting multiple systems. That sounds anxiety provoking to say the least but if you just look at it from a medical perspective it may be helpful because it is thinking somewhat outside the box. And the box doesn't hold a lot of answers for people with hard to diagnose illnesses.
This book by Richard Horowitz called Why Can't I get Better approaches patients with Lyme as having a multi-systemic infectious disease. Often people have more than one infection with symptoms all over the board.
www.amazon.com/Why-Cant-Get-Better-Solving/dp/1250019400
Below is a bunch of info that I give to people who think they may have Lyme disease. A good Lyme Dr. should be able to evaluate you for various infections. They're all hard to test for though. You may want to look in that direction and see if you find any more answers.
Also get a copy of your Lyme test. Not the Dr.'s office copy that doesn't have any info besides your negative result. Get your medical record copy and see if you have any bands positive for Lyme.
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Here are some resources for finding a local Lyme Literate MD.
Each state has a lyme yahoo group. Type Lyme and your state in the yahoo group search bar.
groups.yahoo.com/neo/dir/1600106012
These are two helpful organizations that will send you Dr.'s names in your area.
ilads.org/ilads_media/physician-referral/
tbdalliance.org/treatment/find-a-medical-professional
This is an active online Lyme discussion group. They have a special sections specifically for asking for Dr.'s contact info.
flash.lymenet.org/scripts/ultimatebb.cgi
www.igenex.com/Website/
Igenex. This lab specializes in testing for Lyme. The company will send you the test kit but you need a Dr. or chiropractor to order the test/blood draw. You just need to order these two tests. It's $200. 188 IgM Western Blot, 189 IgG Western Blot
With the average test that your Dr. runs you need five bands on a western blot lyme test to be considered positive according to CDC guidelines. They test you for like 13 different bands. Each band represents an antibody that your immune system produced to fight Lyme. They can't detect the Lyme bacteria in your blood so they look for signs that your body is fighting it.
People in the lyme community disagree entirely with the CDC criteria that you need to have five different types of antibodies fighting lyme in order to be considered positive and qualify for treatment. There's no scientific proof that people with that many antibodies are sick and people with less than that are not.
Given that the tests for lyme are not that accurate to begin with Dr.'s are supposed to diagnose and treat you based more on symptoms anyway. That's what a clinical diagnosis is.