Carol, Sad you're going through this but glad you found us. Most of us were Dx with ITP without much warning and usually with no knowledge of what it is! Low counts are scary and and when the MD's explain it they usually say "you can die from this"! Well, yes you can but experiences here confirm the MD literature that it's a very low percentage. What they don't usually say it people live with low counts. As you undoubtedly know, counts < 10,000 (usually just referred to as 10) is when the MD considers dangerous. I hit 0 on my first Dx, platelets didn't respond a bit to steroids even the pulse protocol, Anti-D (7 rounds) and the IVig lasted two weeks before crashing. At that time there wasn't the range of Rx that are available today.
If you haven't yet heard the cardinal rule of ITP, what works for one doesn't mean it'll work for another and it's twin if it doesn't work for you doesn't mean it won't work for me. The "try it and see" protocol can be frustrating but remember rule #1 and it's twin. It's not that they don't know what they're doing, but rather there is no single Rx that works for everyone. They will usually try a tier 1 Rx, wait a while to determine its effectiveness, and try another as needed.
The other rule is ITP is not determined by a test, but rather the exhaustion of all other known causes of low platelets. That means the bone marrow biopsy, numerous lab tests, endless questions about foods, OTC drugs and health foods. Certain things are known to contribute to low platelets and could be a contributor. Let's pray for that cuz then you can stop consuming it and probably see a rebound! Regarding the bone marrow test, it wasn't difficult for me (had 2) but some say it's painful - perhaps varies due to pain tolerance which mine seems high.
Also there is no cure for ITP, unless his is caused entirely by consumed items. It which case you stop consuming and pray for a complete recovery. Otherwise the best scenario is remission and a return to "normal" platelet counts. Remission doesn't = cure, it means it's not detectable but you'll watch for signs - usually what we would initially think a rash but it's Petechiae. You'll learn the distinction soon.
The usual advise here is to educate yourselves about ITP. Some MD's don't seem to be very knowledgeable about ITP, but then it is a rare disorder. There are numerous stories here where they jump right to splenectomy but doesn't work for everyone and of course is permanent (I did it). Even some hematologists who specialize in blood issues don't have much, if any practical experience with it. Thus it is important for you and your husband to become educated. As much for peace of mind as to understand the medical speak that you'll be experiencing for a while.
Also this is a diverse groups of ITP experience - recent Dx to many, many years. Use us often for any questions and we'll do our best to educate, assist and guide you on your journey. Because of our worldwide reach responses will generally be very quick.
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Steve C