I'm pretty sure that switching to Promacta would require weekly blood work too for a while. the dose will need to be adjusted according to her response and counts will have to be watched until she is stable, which could take a while. Some people have been able to give N-Plate injections at home, maybe you could look into that and since she is stable on that, maybe blood draws could be spaced farther apart.
As for Lupus, did she have any blood test results that could indicate that? ITP can sometimes be a symptom of Lupus but it is rare. I'd ask him why he thinks that...I don't see any reason to be concerned based on what you've said.