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5 years 9 months ago #65215 by Sandi
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How is your mom doing?
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5 years 9 months ago #65220 by CindyL
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Hi Sandi! Thanks for asking. She's doing really well. Her appetite is back to normal and she's glad to be home. As are we. With her being in the hospital all of last summer, we were up there everyday. It took her some time to readjust to being home, but all is good now. She's up to doing the family holidays again, so we will be having my sister and her family and my brother here for Christmas.
I'll admit tho, I am a bit of a worry wart where she's concerned. Every little sniffle or cough and I wanna drag her off to the doctor. But we see him every 4-6 weeks, so he keeps a pretty good eye on her.

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5 years 9 months ago #65223 by MelA
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Cindy I'm glad to hear your mom is doing so well! Of course you are a worry wart, you love her! Enjoy the holidays - I hope everyone stays healthy!

"Instead of wasting your time worrying about symptoms, just get it checked out" -Nieca Goldberg, MD
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5 years 9 months ago #65225 by CindyL
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Thanks, Mel! It's 3 years since I lost my dad and I guess it scares me that I'm going to lose mum sometime. Not in the immediate future, I hope! I told her she can't pass away until she's at least 97 as that's when my grandmother died.
I hope you enjoy the holidays too.

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5 years 9 months ago #65232 by MelA
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Believe me I know that feeling of losing a parent and fearing something will happen to the remaining parent - that's why I dropped out of college, I was afraid to be away from my Dad after my Mom died.

I'm smiling because I know you all will enjoy Christmas and have a lot to celebrate.

"Instead of wasting your time worrying about symptoms, just get it checked out" -Nieca Goldberg, MD
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5 years 9 months ago #65241 by mrsb04
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Me too. I lost Mum 4 years ago. Dad is 89 in a couple of months. He's still quite independent but getting slower and looking frailer.

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5 years 9 months ago #65244 by CindyL
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My mum will be 89 in July of next year. My Dad was 87 when he passed away.
We worry about mum if we go out when we don't have a relief person here with her. The fire alarm for the building is right outside our apartment door and she can't hear it. That scares us. Our plan is to keep her home with us for as long as possible.

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5 years 9 months ago #65282 by Sandi
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I'm glad she is doing well, Cindy!

It will be a year this coming January since my mom died. This is the first Christmas without her and it's going to be a hard one. My father died in 1986 so he hasn't been around in a long time.

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5 years 9 months ago #65286 by CindyL
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I was wondering about your mom. Hard to believe it's been that long.
We had candles done up when dad died, so on special occasions (like Christmas) we bring one out and light it in his memory. This will be our 4th one without him. Some occasions and days are harder to get through than others. I think when I lose my mum, it's going to hit me hard.

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5 years 9 months ago #65293 by Sandi
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I was in the middle of a divorce and had to move out of my house when my mom died, so I wasn't able to grieve. I had to stay strong...too much going on. I ended up buying her house, so I'm surrounded by her every minute. I made a video of her to music for my family for Christmas, and I finally was able to cry about it while I was making it. I still hold back though.

Luckily I have my ten month old grandson to perk up my life! He's the sweetest baby ever and looks a lot like my son did when he was little. It's like taking a trip back in time when I look into his eyes!

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5 years 9 months ago #65294 by CindyL
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I remember all the stuff you were going through. I felt so bad for you.
With Dad, when we found out he was terminal, we had time to prepare for it. Not that when the time came, it was any easier. Steven and I started making his arrangements after he told us. He passed away in the morning and that afternoon mum was asking when we could start making hers. I told her to wait til we got Dad taken care of then we'd look after her. Her arrangements are all made now, so when it happens, we'll just call our local funeral homes and they'll do the rest. Less stress on the family.
Any new pictures of the grandson? Wow, 10 months already!

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